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Friday, October 21, 2011

Winter Knocks !!!!


Winter knocks and I’am lovin it! Snuggly evenings and chilly winds, cuddly sweaters and any excuse to get closer! Who can say no to so much cool stuff but in India’s winter’s are anyway so short that you blink and you’ll miss it. But with all it’s numerous goodies, it also brings some unwanted and unavoidable gifts like dry skin and hair, and horror of horrors–chapped lips! But no worries, since we have those lip balms and glosses… though I like wearing them irrespective of the season. J

Winters are sometimes synonymous to cozy evenings, hot soups, warm fashion, festivities all around (since most of the festivals fall during winters). Moreover is so much fun shopping in bright sun at a local market while having some delicious hot street food. But it also brings a thought of the end of another year and with that in mind, the last 15 years of my life just flashbacked infront of my eyes and I can’t help being amazed at how my life has changed in all these years. It’s a feeling of bitter-sweet emotions…So much yet so less has changed. From a fresher stepping out of school to a responsible adult (sometimes still figuring out the various responsibilities life had laid for me), I’ve definitely come a long way **twinkles**

That leaves me wondering – did my life shape up the way I had dreamt? Well, the answer to that is partly yes, partly no. Do I have any regrets? Nah! I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs and won’t deny the fact that the things which didn’t turn out my way left me in the dumps at times. But it moves on noh! Isn’t that what life is all about. If life was so damn predictable, it would have been as easy as sketching a route on Google maps! To me, life is all about the choices u make…some turn good, some bad. And for the bad one’s if they ain’t fulfilling, they are good learning instruments at least **smiles**

Isn’t life too short to cry over the mess… after all it’s all about making the most of each moment. Live life as there’s no tomorrow. Let your hair down. Dance till you drop dead. Sing your favourite song at the top of your voice. Smile a little harder and yes, cry a little less. Hold hands with your partner. Say sorry for the mistakes. Forgive others. Take out time to watch the sunset. Go for long drives. Have golgappas and momos. In our busy lives, how often do we acknowledge the joy in such subtle yet so meaningful ways. Mouve Moments leaves you with that food for your thoughts and time for me too to soak up all its marvels. **Perky Twinkling**

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Hammer the right way!



This is the story of the giant ship engine that failed and stopped working. The ship’s owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure but how to fix the engine.
Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a youngster. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, from top to bottom.
Two of the ship’s owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man searched into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. & instantly, the engine lurched into life & got started.
He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed! A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for £10,000.
“What?!” the owners exclaimed. “He hardly did anything!”
So they wrote the old man a note saying “Please send us an itemised bill.”
The man sent a bill that read:
Tapping with a hammer …..£2.00
Knowing where to hammer..£9,998.00
Total £10,000

The core essence of the above Story is what I want to convey: 
Making an effort, itself is important, but knowing where to make an effort in your life ‘Makes all the difference’. We often see people striving, working and making effort tirelessly, sometimes even for years after years, only for them, to later on realize that they were all misplaced and how they wish they had spent the time and effort on something more fruitful. Its important to feel your mind and heart and put your efforts in the right direction.

Friday, October 14, 2011

The Big B word

A balanced life- work life, eating a balanced diet, balancing steps as we walk and above all balancing relationships to live with love, commitment, cooperation, peace and harmony.

Isn’t life all about balance?


This ‘B’ word really seems to be preceding all other alphabets and is taking over to become the first letter of the alphabets of today’s life.  As we grow, we keep evolving and advancing  to new roads and phases, at every step there is something new waiting for us. And then one day we reach the phase that marks a substantial era in our lives. Our single identity suddenly merges with multiple others by saying Kubul hai or over the chants, around the fire, the holy book or the I do! Suddenly you hear your heart beating in your throat and bells ringing within the soul and everywhere outside. Suddenly all those glossy clothing and accessories come to life, and you feel interested in anything that is related with this event of lifetime. Yes! This peal of wedding bells prevails forever in our hearts and The ‘BIG B’ word rules our lives forever from this moment onwards.

Live in this happy moment, the vigor, color and festivities so you remember the charisma through out your life and feel the need of balancing the pros and cons it comes with. Every day is a new challenge and its sport to accept it and live on happily. Am sure, not everyone has the courage to ignore the cons but the B word does helps you sort it out. Relationship and wedding was just my explaination for this Big B. But its not limites to relations… life comprises of many many more factors. So no worries… be a good gymnast….just Balance it! What say people??

Friday, October 7, 2011

It's great being a Girl!



Spices and Sugar with everything nice and lovely, that’s what pretty woman are made of.  And there are a million reasons to be happy you ended up with two X chromosomes – shoe or bag shopping, girls parties, high heels, makeup and cheaper insurance, just to name a few!
The best thing about being a woman is the variety. As women, we experience so many changes in our bodies and minds over the course of our lives. We get to experience life in a whole different way than men do, and I love that.
I love having lots of dressing options and looking pretty. It would be terrible to be a man and have to choose between the blue suit or the blue suit.
I can get away with splashing a drink over a man with just a smile and sorry, or get those last few movie tickets by requesting the first man in the queue, or get a space to sit comfortably in a metro.
The "superpower" of being able to grow another life inside you, and produce the food to feed it too.
Moreover, I also love the sisterhood that women have with each other.
Women have so many choices. They can work or stay home. Be a corporate woman, a teacher or a soldier. Despite the fact that we think men have it good, ask a man who has chosen a career viewed as predominantly for women, like a secretary or a nurse, or one who has chosen to stay home and raise the kids while Mom works. They get a lot of flack and are looked on as less of a man.
A woman can do all the things that women naturally do and she can do most things a man can do also. A woman can keep a house looking like something out of a magazine, a woman can make a delicious meal from leftovers, a woman can create life. A woman can get up early, cook, work whole day, sleep children, take a bath, and be ready for a night on the town. Men can't even put a dish in the sink.
Love being a woman? Let's hear you roar.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Speak Up .... Say NO !


Be a good girl. Mind your manners infront of guests. If someone gives you a scoop of your favorite ice cream, don't ask for another one. If you are asked to do something you'd rather not do, do it anyway and keep your loved one’s happy. Also if someone treats you badly return it with being nice.
These are the things we were tought since the time we were small lil girls and most of us were told to be good girls and never say "No."
Then, when we become grown up girls — adult daughters and sisters, wives, mothers, colleagues —we still follow that one rule that was infused in us during childhood... 'We remember to be the nice girls.'
N’ later few girls, including me, encounter toxic relationships, with men and women, where they feel hurt but don't speak up because they don't want conflict, or they don't want to make the other person feel bad. These women continually allow people to cross their personal boundaries. Some are overwhelmed by taking on too many commitments and responsibilities, because they don't want to say no. All of them sacrifice their own healthy minds and hearts to make other people feel OK.
In their careers also, these good girls fail to speak up and thus are often ignored or taken for granted, while others, less qualified or deserving, snatch up the golden opportunities. They often feel taken advantage of, treated less respectfully or at a loss for how to get the things we most want in life.
From being unable to leave an abusive relationship, to being immobilized in a career, to being reluctant to question a physician about a treatment, we sometimes are more concerned with how others may react, or what others may think of us, than what we are with our own well-being.
So, when do we nice girls get to speak up? When do we get to say, "No," or "Back off?" When do we get to say, “Stop It!” or "Hey, it's my turn now!"?
Continuing to be the good girl we were commanded to be as children — being reluctant to make impressions, never allowing ourselves to speak up for what we really want, need or feel — keeps us from growing into strong, assertive Winning Women.
Being good and pleasant is important, but it alone will not get you what you want out of life. Being generous, kind and caring is an ingredient for success, but that’s not sufficient for the whole recipe.
I hate to say I too was one of them, and through my experiences I realized that my hesitation for saying NO, invited many troubles. Many a times, my mom’s persona motivated me to be bolder and speak up for myself, and I saved myself from sinking. So I know it’s not easy, but any effort to speak up, is truly worth it!
We live in a world that tells us Good Girls are nice 24/7, no exceptions. In a peer culture to avoids conflicts generally girls don’t get permission or learn skills to say no. These are crucial muscles we ought to have: the ability not just to know what we are feeling, but to act on it. Think about the last time you spoke up and challenged something or someone. If not, try this time, show yourself how it’s done: assertively and with respect. Warning: expect embarrassment. Simple… why not start with this..... Next time when you are served cold food or not as good coffee as the last time at a favorite restaurant, be bold and send it back to the kitchen for replacement.
Winning women are one who have learned how to win the respect, they deserve the success they've earned and the life they want without being labeled bad. We need to create situations where our voices are heard and needs are met apart from the fact that the outcome will make us feel good about how we have handled ourselves.

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