Love ya Arranged... live happily ever after !!!!

From Simran running to catch the train for Raj in DDLJ ; or the wedding woos of Hum Aapke Hain Kaun and Vivaah!!!! We have all grown up seeing love stories or big fat Indian weddings courtesy our Cinema industry. And whatever is the showcase – an arranged one or Love… they both end with a tagline of ‘And they lived happily ever after’. But what really happens after, is a mystery for all!

Since ages this has always been a debatable subject. I love you or I will start loving you…Be it basis the feelings or Commitment, marriage is still a gamble with life, some pass through as winners while others struggle irrespective the kind of union.

Girls in our country grow up reading fairy tales and dreaming of a prince charming but when reality crosses, many of them are left heart broken. Their big expectations out of their partners and the rozy picture shown in movies that they relate with for themselves, turn baseless when the man chosen by their parents turns a little less romantic. He does things for her but her expectations still lay higher so she is not able enjoy those small moments. In our Indian society, kids are grown in a protected shell and are not allowed to talk to strangers but when it comes to marriage, they are suddenly asked to sleep with one. Weird but accepted by many!!!

All our lives, the only thing that most of us are seen to be chasing is that ‘ONE MOMENT’ when you say ‘yes I do’. Contrary to the societal beliefs, I feel it’s all about finding the right person, then be it an arranged or love marriage. Even if the person is chosen by our parents, we should have a good courtship period, to have enough time to build an understanding with him. And for those already dating, one should set aside priorities and see the practical side of the relationship, coz love is always in the air, but sometimes it vanishes later in that air itself, then it comes down to commitment and bonding you share. So no matter how and what set up you followed, every union comes with some rough patches, and one has to just understand that you both are from different world, grown up in different environment and help each other settle together, overlooking the negatives and polishing the positives of your partner.

Even though dating and India are still not good friends and it is something older people frown upon seeing it as a 'secret rendezvous', with changing times, today many of our parents compromise on their beliefs and accept our choices, turning it into an love cum arranged set up of a big fat Indian wedding! So Indian society too is growing up and the concept of marriage has evolved. These days the trend shows that many youngsters date, have relationships and heartbreaks but when it comes to marriage they rely on their parents for that perfect partner. This is, of course, a far cry from how most of our parents met. Now, however, it seems young Indians have the option of really getting to know the person they are hoping to marry.

Marriage is a road that you two build and then walk together on it, on the way gifting each other flowers of compatibility and fruits of compromise, cause even though marriages are said to be made in heaven, they have to be nurtured right here on the earth. So all out there planning on your marriage, don’t think about if it should or have to be arranged or love…. If you happen to find that one person who makes your life worth living, then simply go for it! 




** THIS POST IS DONE EXCLUSIVELY FOR THE INDIBLOGGER CONTEST ON THE TOPIC "Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage"